I regularly visit Jamie's space (One Woman's Words). Her blogs are very interesting and I like to comment on them. Today I read this one, which is of particular interest and I teach frequently to my disciples. My comments follow Jamie's blog.

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"Testing"

     I received a call from a friend asking for my advice. Apparently, she wants to "test" her boyfriend's faithfulness. Her plan was to use one of her friends he'd never met. The friend was to go to the place the boyfriend was at and flirt like crazy with him to see if he would "take the bait." My friend asked me if I thought this was a good idea. I had to tell her that I thought her idea was deceitful and somewhat childish. You shouldn't have to prove that someone is faithful. I believe that trust is very important in a relationship and if you can't trust the person, then you probably shouldn't be with them. It is no fun to be in a relationship where you are constantly questioning the other's faithfulness. If you need proof that your significant other is true to you, you might want to take a step back and ask yourself why. Do you have trust issues or is there a reason to suspect unfaithfulness? Whatever the reason, it needs to be dealt with for the sake of the relationship.

 

~~~~~ Now It's Your Turn ~~~~~

Do you think it's okay to "test" your boyfriend or girlfriend to see if they are remaining true to you?

I read all the comments posted by many other blogers on Jamie's space. Most agree on the value of trust which is part of a good relationship and is basically supported from within. However, my teaching may shock many of the blogers. Therefore, I decided to trackback and comment about it in my space so everyone who visits me is made aware of my beliefs on this respect. There are many conditions which shall be considered in order to understand why the issue is so sensitive. Among the conditions which we should understand are the following:

1) The need of testing what you don't understand

2) The need to hear the truth from people you maintain a relationship with 3) The trust you feel towards the person which you have the relationship with

4) Your feelings when you are with or when you think about that person 5) The jealousy within you

6) The facts about humankind and what most of each gender expect from the opposite side.

So, I shall discuss each one of the conditions in support of my teaching. As usual, I disclaim any professional capacity, this is just a life teaching from a YOGI and please don't believe a word of what I say. Please make your own research and if considered necessary take a professional advice. I only wish this is learned from youths, ahead of time enough, before being hurt in a relationship.

The first condition is a natural need inherited from ancestors who became aware of their own wondering. Millions of years ago, humankind developed a bigger brain due to the hability of erected and balanced walking. This process habilitated the use of hands for other activities other than to support the body. The use of tools was a major evolution. The bigger brain was maintained active though a two-way process of test and error with the hands. All other testing methods evolved from that point. If we learn this point, it would be one step easier for us to understand anyother condition we go through during processes of being tested or needing to test. The point is: It is within human nature to test. Don't blame the Saint because he needed to place his finger in the Lord's wound. Remember, the Lord's frase: blessed the ones who believed (because it hurt him! You &*%#%&)

The second condition is somehow tided to the previous one. The difference is about what we want to hear and not about what we need to learn. The problem is deep in our self. If we need to learn something, we just make an objective judgement of the facts attained to the subject. The problem is when we want to learn a positive response to our expectations. Then we take consideration to non-factual issues like the ones we learn from social behavior. That condition is betrayed by what we expect from social manners and what men or woman should do, not what in fact "is". Most of the time we make the questions so desparately as if we are saying: "blah blah blah blah...? (Please lie to me!) Because if you are not true then... blah blah blah blah." Blah stands for what society dictates what people are supposed to do. In essence, control yourself when you make the question and be prepared to take action on the facts without regards of what society tells you to do.

The third condition is much more important since humankind lives in society. Please don't get me wrong, you don't have to do what society tells what you are supposed to do. All social relationships are based on one-on-one. Our ancestors learned that most of the tasks are needed to be performed in teams. (And that's not a finding made by any contemporary coach or teambuilding guru!) From hunting to building villages, it is morelikely that no one would not participate, one way or another, in trusting someone else skills and capability to do what is not physically on sight, and hence out of touch. When raising a child, it takes a whole village to raise a child. So there's a strong need to trust our partners in a relationship, but we expect society to tell that one what's supposed to be done. And here comes the trick, children are made (procreated) on one-on-one relationships, and therefore society tells that everyone "must" have only one (partner) in order to procreate. In addition, we select our partner based on society's criteria and expect a given result. Trust is a feeling from within and expectation is a collective request. The stronger your feelings are, the more empowerment you shall provide in trust in yourself. That is: learn who you are and what you do. Forget about collective expectations, because you will never meet. But remember, you are not what you do! On the end, the partner you trust is a mare companion on your journey towards yourself and through your activities. Do your best in order to have a happy journey. At the end, your partner will have her/his own journey, poors are the ones who don't get it.

It becomes evident that we have learned what love is about based on what society tells us what it is. Someone out there said sometime ago: "love someone because of the way you feel when you are with or think about that person and not because of what you expect from that person." So if you have tested (there's nothing bad about it), you know is a truefully a human "as is" (all disclaimers allowed, no warranties, nothing to do about what you expect), then you have only one option: to trust. Remember, everyone is human. Is there someone out there who hasn't learned how opposites attrack to each other and how they need to each other? Give yourself a chance and be happy! You are trusting yourself about what you know who you are and aware of what you do.

Now comes the shocking part. Why do jealousy takes part of our lives? I have learned from a mayority of people that such feeling is negative. I would like to add that someone said: "things happen because there is a reason." In other words, to every cause there is an effect. Our problem becomes worst mostly because we are reluctant to acknowledge the origens of the results received from our own acts.  By the time we learn about of the reactions of our own prior actions, we usually have forgotten what we did in order to have such effect, and must probable we might associate the effect to the wrong origen.  Millions of years ago, when humankind developed walking, the nose became farther from close contact to the ground. This effected human hability to smell, as most animal kingdom do, and the sense was diminished. In time, humankind became less sensitive to human odors, and many others, which disclosed body readiness for sexual interaction. Today, most people would reject such body odors and use deodorants and other kind of perfumes, body wash and bath. But there is a lighter essence which comes from hormones secrated during human sexual interaction, only. And that essence is not strong but strong enough to awake the "jealousy" like animals do. Beware, next time you feel jealous, please first take a look to your own acts. The hormones essence will remain in your body for at least four months, even from your partner. So if you feel jealous when you are with your current partner, it might be odors from one of your previous contacts which is reacting and awakening your animal behavior.

Finally, but not less important. It might even be the most important of all, depending on your values if you haven't realized it up to this point. Learn the facts about human behavior: male is dominant (from animal kingdom of heards) and likes to have more than one female (although there are exceptions to the rule in the animal kingdom). The female usually likes to devote to only one male and that male is accepted because of his strenth (was able to defeat the opponents) and won't let anyother male to come close to his females. This means that the mayority of one gender would be looking for the minority of the other gender in currenct social manners. In other words, each one would be looking out to find the exception to the natural rules. It is a though fight!  There is another catch! Sometime in the human evolution, some people developed the myth of The Amazons. It looks like such myths shall become true.

I wish you all good luck in your research. Be aware of who you become, and what you want to do about it.

What I'm talking about is the doble standards transmitted in this type of movies (and books and media). Movies like The War of the Worlds, Star Wars, Teminator, Platoon, Independence Day and so on, are originally made for Americans' perception. However, since everything is dual (has at least two ways of interpretation, or always has the other side of the coin), these movies seen from a foreign perspective is way too adverse for Americans.  Just consider how you, as many other people do, get in the hero's shoes and fight agaisnt the invader, enemy, machines, technology or aliens.  Now change your role and figure out what goes in the mind of a suicide bomber, marthyr, freedom-fighter, muhaideen or intifada fighter.  Just like when you read about the "Suicide bombs become potent tools for terror" from MSNBC, you would easily understand the Americans' perspective, but it would not be hard to understand the "terrorist" perspective.  After all, their life is so misirable and poor future that "they" are just fighting for their homeland and freedom and taking the war away from "their" homeland by all means possible.  This is not a justification of someone else cruel acts.  I'm oppose to war by any means or purpose.  I support and joined Depak Chopra and the book "Peace is the Way".  Please don't get me wrong, but what I see in the media and movies about war and terror is that American's are digging their own grave by supporting, liking and creating these type of news and movies.

For sure, politics and military are fighting the war on terror by expecting the enemy to do the unexpected.  That is the set of the minds of both sides of the war.  Both side talk to "their" people about the attrocidies of the other side.  Just like the British used to say about the rebels' militia during the American Independence War.  However, it is not good to understimate the enemy and misjudge how far will their forces go in trying to fight tanks with stones.  The victims will always be civilians and bystanders.  Most people who get killed in the suicide bombers' attack are the ones who don't expect to be cought between crossfire or a bomb.  So if you are a pacifist and suffer when aware the peoples suffering in the wars, do what the "enemy" will not expect.  Most likely pacifists would engage in antiwar demonstrations, requests to pull-out of Iraq and sort type of manifectations against war and politics.  That still will provoke the counter reaction of the war and troop supporters.  The best way I recommend os to do what the enemy does not expect.  That is teached in "Peace is the Way".  Another way is teached (although I wouldn't assure whether the writter did it in consciousness) in the Harry Potter book series.  However, I strongly recommend to get a mystic teacher if you like this other way.

Many people would like to be in your place!

Are you sad? Do you believe you suffer to much? Are you the unhappiest person in the world?

Look around you. Look at so many people is in worst conditions, having pain and problems much more worst. Think again. Your life is not disgraced. Be more optimistic. Do not regret the lost opportunities since you will loose the ones arriving. But please, take a little sight to the next message, as it helped a lot of people to live in a different way.

'If you are sad because you lost your love one, remember the one who did not have any love to loose.

If you are disappointed about something, remember the one whose birth was a disappointment.

If you are tired of working, remember the one who was lost the job in distressed.

If you complain about the distasteful meal, remember the one who died with hunger, having no bread.

If your dream is faded, remember the one who constantly lives in a nightmare.

If you are bored, remember the one who is waiting for your smile.

If you had to loose your love, get tired at work, get your dream faded, feel sadness, complain about a meal... remember to thank GOD. As there are many people who would give all what they have, just to be in your place!’

It’s never too late for a new start or a new life.

Free translation from "Created by Father Juca."

Taken from http://spaces.msn.com/members/tucangri/

A muchos les gustaria estar en tu lugar ¿Estás triste? ¿Crees que sufres demasiado? ¿Eres la persona más infeliz del mundo? Ve a tu alrededor: ve cuánta gente está en peor situación, pasando dolores y problemas mucho más graves. Piensa bien: tu vida no es tan desgraciada. Sé más optimista. No te lamentes de las oportunidades perdidas si no dejaras pasar las que están llegando. Por favor, da una miradita al siguiente mensaje, que ya ayudó a mucha gente a enfrentar la vida de una forma diferente. "Si usted está triste porque perdió su amor, recuerde aquél que no tuvo un amor que perder; si se decepcionó con alguna cosa, recuerde aquél cuyo nacimiento ya fue una decepción; si está cansado de trabajar, recuerde aquel que, angustiado, perdió su empleo; si usted se queja de una comida mal hecha, recuerde aquél que murió hambriento, sin tener pan; si se le deshace un sueño, recuerde aquél que vive en una pesadilla constante; si anda aburrido, recuerde aquél que espera una sonrisa suya. Si usted tuvo: que perder un amor, que cansarse en el trabajo, un sueño deshecho, que sentir una tristeza, que quejarse de una comida... recuerde agradecer a Dios, porque existen muchos que darían todo por estar en su lugar". Nunca es tarde para recomenzar una vida. creado por: Padre Juca

Religion has commonly been derived from the Latin "Ligare" (to bind), with the intensive prefix "Re-" indicating Concentration, and thus a binding together ~ Constraint, Obligation, or Bondage.

The true nature of this Bond, however, is revealed through a consideration of alternative derivations. Ligare: to bind, as in Ligature. Legare: to bestow, as in Legacy. LegLre: to read, as in Legend. Legere: to choose or gather, as in Legion. Re-: intensive prefix. Re: ablative of pronoun Res (a Thing).

Religion was anciently derived from the phrase Rem Legere (to CHOOSE that which is RIGHT).Religion (in some minds) has come to mean Re-Ligare (OBLIGATION or BONDAGE to the established Rule). When the "established Rule" and "that which is Right" are in harmony, there is no choice! Although, when freedom of choice is denied, the concept of Religion is changed.

The Early Christian Church Father Saint Augustine, writing in the fifth century AD, also derived RELIGION from religare, "to bind back": "and supposed it implied a pious obligation to obey divine law; and this is the sense in which religion has been understood ever since. Augustine's guess, like Cicero's (though Cicero came nearer the truth), did not take into account the length of the first syllable of religion in Lucretius's early De Rerum Natura, or the alternative spelling relligion.

Relligion can be formed only from the phrase rem legere, "to chose, or pick, the right thing", and religion for the primitive Greeks and Romans was not obedience to laws but a means of protecting the tribe against evil by active counter-measures of good." [ Graves, The White Goddess, p. 477 f. ]

In other interpretation I found Cicero had derived RELIGION from the verb relegere, "to read duly" as in studying divine lore. In the early period of a Roman sacred monarchy, the lictores, (lectures, scribes or "choosers" from latin Lect: to write, and Ores: to say, in other words "to say in writing), were twelve priestly companions of the king who performed the relictio, or "careful reading" of omens and auguries, as well as the selection of the royal clothing, weapons, food and bedding.

With the advent of the Republic, the lictores became guards of honor to the Consuls, who inherited the executive powers of kingship, and hence connected popularly with religare and the idea of binding as enforcement of the law. "Originally there had been no Twelve Tables, nor any other Roman code of laws; there had only been oral tradition, based on instinctive good principles and particular magical announcements. ... It must be explained that the word lex, "law", began with the sense of a "chosen word", or magical pronouncement, and that, like lictor, it was later given a false derivation from ligare. Law in Rome grew out of religion: occasional pronouncements developed proverbial force and became legal principles. But as soon as religion in its primitive sense is interpreted as social obligation and defined by tabulated laws--as soon as Apollo the Organizer, God of Science, usurps the power of his Mother the Goddess of inspired truth, wisdom and poetry, and tries to bind her devotees by laws--inspired magic goes, and what remains [instead of right choice based on instinctive good principle] is theology, ecclesiastical ritual, and negatively ethical behaviour." [ Graves, The White Goddess, p. 479 ]

I don't believe in Astrology!

Many people like to query about their future and relay in predictions posted in newspapers, magazines, radio and tv.  Those astrological predictions or periodic forecasts are generic superstitions.  Of course many people can have a pattern or profile of behavior depending on the circumstances, but that is another generalization.  Everyone has their own will and is responsible for their own selection of actions towards will happen to each one.  The destiny is made by each person based on the actions which everyone select to perform.  Luck is the generic term used when people are unaware of the causes which originated the effects, in a short or long period of time.

As one of the messages understood from "The Gods Must Be Crazy", our civilization has lost the connection with nature.  Therefore, people needs to consult with a wide variaty of professional in order to understand the origins and complication of a given pattern of events.  There are professional in economics, health, business, social life, and even nature who provide guidance to costumers who request their services.  The final responsibility to take decision and action towards the desired result, rest on the individual and not on the professional who provides advice.  However, our civilization has cutted, contaminated or cloaged the channels of communications with nature that the whole perspective of the quest and of the advice usually becomes wrong.  It's not a matter of who is responsible for the end result.  There's few posibilities to determine who is responsible for the damages when the whole civilization is inmerse in the same condition.  Who would be posible capable to provide a different perspective if everyone is looking from the same angle?

The current civilizations are all contected in this modern world.  Segregating  people based on their profile, customs, culture, race, nationality and so on does not make one civilization better then the other.  The same pattern of human behavior has been in place since early caveman was hunting.  However, somehow the ruthless minds have been transmitting encripted knowledge from generations to generations through paintings, symbols, landmarks, graphics and many other artistic and scientific breakthroughs, for "the eyes in the minds of those harts who want to see."  Each civilization has developed ways of culture which still persist through time.  In time of cloagued communications people even go for a second opinion on what to do.  Meanwhile, the ancestral understanding is displayed for public contemplation.  Silently showing great knowledge for the one who is ready to hear and see.  Fortunately, every civilization has its own form to transfer the culture and knowledge forward new generations.  Something I can say in favor of the unscientifically tested traditions, take a deep breath and take the time to rest and contemplate.  You will find the hidden message for you in the masterpiece.

Therefore, when someone ask me whether I believe or not in Astrology, my response is always: No!

Because I study it!

Everyone was capable to practise most of the asanas.  Silence was golden.  The morning contact was marvelous.  Breakfast, lunch and dinner was provided and everyone had no left overs.  The evening meditation was mostly guidance of the rules and teachings.  Everyone was required to find the own Astro Chart @ http://www.alabe.com/freechart/  I shall work tonight interpreting everyone of the disciple's charts.

We had dinner last night and the rules of conduct have been explained to all prospective disciples.  The vow of silence starts today for the next seven days.  The trial period will end August 2nd.

Only 7 were able to make it all the way through.  I shall let them in at 2:05, meditation starts at 2:15, Solstix is at 2:46 am Eastern Time USA (06:46 GMT)

I am writing a book for all those who were not able to respond to my quiz of April 24.  I had committed my self to have it ready between June 21 and July 3.  However, it won't be possible.  I had to do additional extensive research.  However, I'd like to let everybody know that the Solstics, Equinoxs, Apehelios and Perihelios shall be key days for the Initiation.

The Time has come to make a change

Perhaps you think you're different from the whole world

Inevitable distiny of Humankind

All came along, and alone

With a hidden message deep in your mind

Only you can undestand what your Mission is

Stop blaming the way, place and time you were raised or who did it

Like father is not like son or daughter, You can make a difference

Like a two way street, There's always someone up there

As well as someone waiting there

If you learned to hide your feelings

Just start saying "Happy Fathers Day" because Love will showup

The one who once held you in his essence, will be happy

After all, it's never to late, he will understand

Cause it was never because of him

Neither it is because of you

It's all because of that child, who is every day

Waiting to learn about Love

Waiting to learn to say: "I LOVE YOU" and "HAPPY FATHERS DAY"

If you have understand my message, don't tell me you can't do that!

The poems I have written for you

were ment for your eyes only

I could not be more surprised

learning how much you like them

At first I tried to have this space empty

just to let you fill it with your best words and whishes

I ended writing crazy stuff

I know you are alive

somewhere out there, you are

someday maybe I'll find you

I've never see you but I know how you are

only my destiny knows if I shall find you

You are not there to teach me to tell you "I love you"

But I feel that is the way I shall start

If there's anything else I shall say

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY

Because I know I'm in my way